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IBS| What Should I Do When I Am Angry? |Anger Control


Correctly deal with anger to have a peaceful mind every day.

Buttafleye Ministry: Interactive Bible Study

Theme: Manage Your Anger-Use Anger To Your Advantage

Topic: "What Should I Do When I am Angry (Control your anger)?"

Instructor: Dr. Mar' Jae

 

About this study: In this session, we will discuss anger, signs of anger issues, what to do when you're angry, using anger the right way, the root cause of anger, and how to handle anger biblically. We will also learn the four basic rules of communication, the four root causes of anger, and the effects of anger on our physical health. Learn the differences between righteous and unrighteous anger from a Biblical standpoint. The Most High God experiences anger and his wrath and anger are talked about in the Bible. Just like any emotion, anger is a feeling that can be used for good or evil.


Class participation: This is an interactive study. All students are required to participate by answering three questions posted in a blog. Engage with three other participants by responding to their answers with a comment. Participation Requirements




 

Use Anger To Your Advantage- Manage Your Anger

What Should I Do When I Am Angry? Control Your Anger!

 


HANDLING ANGER BIBLICALLY


We can handle anger biblically by returning good for evil (Genesis 50:21; Romans 12:21). This is key to converting our anger into love. As our actions flow from our hearts, so also our hearts can be altered by our actions (Matthew 5:43-48). That is, we can change our feelings toward another by changing how we choose to act toward that person.

We can handle anger biblically by communicating to solve the problem.


We can handle anger biblically by seeing the Most High God in the trial. This is especially important when people have done something to offend us. James 1:2-4, Romans 8:28-29, and Genesis 50:20 all point to the fact that the Most High God is sovereign over every circumstance and person that crosses our path.


Nothing happens to us that He does not cause or allow. Though the Most High God does allow bad things to happen, He is always faithful to redeem them for the good of His people. The Most High is a good God (Psalm 145:8,9,17). Reflecting on this truth until it moves from our heads to our hearts will alter how we react to those who hurt us.


 

COMMUNICATION

Let's Talk About Mental Health

There are four basic rules of communication shared in Ephesians 4:15, 25-32, we will learn a new basic rule weekly:

 

It is important to recognize that anger at an injustice inflicted against oneself is also appropriate. Anger has been said to be a warning flag—it alerts us to those times when others are attempting to or have violated our boundaries. The Most High God cares for each individual.


Sadly, we do not always stand up for one another, meaning that sometimes we must stand up for ourselves. This is especially important when considering the anger that victims often feel. Victims of abuse, violent crime, or the like have been violated in some way. Often while experiencing the trauma, they do not experience anger. Later, in working through the trauma, anger will emerge. For a victim to reach a place of true health and forgiveness, he or she must first accept the trauma for what it was. In order to fully accept that an act was unjust, one must sometimes experience anger.



Silence Hides Violence


Because of the complexities of trauma recovery, this anger is often not short-lived, particularly for victims of abuse. Victims should process their anger and come to a place of acceptance, even forgiveness. This is often a long journey.


As YHWH (God) heals the victim, the victim’s emotions, including anger, will follow. Allowing the process to occur does not mean the person is living in sin.

 

BASIC RULES OF COMMUNICATION

There are four basic rules of communication shared in Ephesians 4:15, 25-32, this week's basic rule of communication is:


Stay Current

2.) Stay current (Ephesians 4:26-27). We must not allow what is bothering us to build up until we lose control. It is important to deal with what is bothering us before it reaches critical mass.

: to stay current: to change as conditions change.


What does the Bible say about the present moment?


Yahshua is indicating that the time is now. And though what is taking place in his coming has been promised in the past, the present is what matters. And, although the future is promised by God, the present is what matters. The past is remembered, and the future is hoped for, both important concepts for faith.



Live Life, Enjoy the blessing!

The best way to live… Enjoy the blessing of each day!

Ecclesiastes 5:18-20, MSG After looking at the way things are on this earth, here’s what I’ve decided is the best way to live: Take care of yourself, have a good time, and make the most of whatever job you have for as long as God gives you life. And that’s about it. That’s the human lot. Yes, we should make the most of what God gives, both the bounty and the capacity to enjoy it, accepting what’s given and delighting in the work. It’s God’s gift! God deals out joy in the present, the now. It’s useless to brood over how long we might live.


Living in the moment

Not living in the past, living in the present moment. Live in the present – focus on what God is doing now, and what He will do in the future.

Isaiah 43:18-19, NIV Forget the former things; do not dwell on the past. See, I am doing a new thing! Now it springs up; do you not perceive it? I am making a way in the desert and streams in the wasteland.

Live for Today

Be Content, Don’t Worry. YHWH's (God’s) with you!

Hebrews 13:5, ESV Keep your life free from love of money, and be content with what you have, for he has said, I will never leave you nor forsake you.

Romans 12:2, ESV Do not be conformed to this world, but be transformed by the renewal of your mind, that by testing you may discern what is the will of God, what is good and acceptable and perfect.

Don’t Worry About Tomorrow Don’t worry about tomorrow – Let tomorrow worry about itself. Live for the moment, Live in the moment.

Matthew 6:34, NIV Therefore do not worry about tomorrow, for tomorrow will worry about itself. Each day has enough trouble of its own.

Enjoy the blessing of today & every day. Enjoy the blessing of each day – Rejoice, and be glad. Speak graciously to others. Make the most of every opportunity. Make the best use of your time.

Psalm 118:24, ESV This is the day that the LORD has made; let us rejoice and be glad in it.

Ephesians 5:15-16, NIV Be very careful, then, how you live – not as unwise but as wise, making the most of every opportunity…

Colossians 4:5-6, ESV Walk in wisdom toward outsiders, making the best use of the time. Let your speech always be gracious, seasoned with salt, so that you may know how you ought to answer each person.




 

THE ROOT CAUSE OF ANGER

Four root causes of anger will be discussed in this Bible study. Each week we will learn a new root cause of anger. Common roots of anger include fear, pain, and frustration. In this IBS (Interactive Bible Study) we are going deeper to completely destroy the root.




 

Getting to the Root

What is the root cause of anger issues?


What causes anger issues? Many things can trigger anger, including stress, family problems, and financial issues. For some people, anger is caused by an underlying disorder, such as alcoholism or depression. Anger itself isn't considered a disorder, but anger is a known symptom of several mental health conditions.



  • Fear. Think of an animal trapped in a corner. ...


  • Shame. People often react with anger when they feel disrespected, humiliated, or embarrassed. ...


  • Betrayal. Some of the literature I read while researching anger identified pain or a sense of being hurt as a root cause of that emotion.

 

Getting to the Root of Irritation


THE ROOT OF ANGER


What are the four common triggers of anger?


This week's root cause and or trigger of anger is Irritation. People often express their anger in different ways, but they usually share four common triggers. Irritability is a feeling of agitation. Although, some describe “agitation” as a more severe form of irritability. Regardless of the term you use, when you're irritable, you're likely to become frustrated or upset easily. You might experience it in response to stressful situations.

Irritation The Root Cause of Anger


QUESTIONS AND ANSWERS

What does my irritation mean?

irritate, exasperate, nettle, provoke, rile, peeve mean to excite a feeling of anger or annoyance. irritate implies an often gradual arousing of angry feelings that may range from mere impatience to rage. A condition of irritability, soreness, roughness, or inflammation of a bodily part.


IRRITATION: aggravation, aggro, annoyance, bother, botheration, exasperation, frustration, grief.

What causes irritation?

Many factors can cause or contribute to irritability, including life stress, a lack of sleep, low blood sugar levels, and hormonal changes. Extreme irritability, or feeling irritable for an extended period, can sometimes indicate an underlying condition, such as an infection or diabetes.

Is irritation an emotion?

In this situation, anger or irritation is a primary emotion, because it occurred as a direct consequence of the event (being cut off in traffic). Or, if you start remembering the loss of someone you care about, the primary emotion you might feel is sadness. Secondary emotions, on the other hand, are less useful.





What does YHWH (God) say about the future?

Our past has changed, because, in God's eyes, we have no past, only a great future. In Jeremiah 29:11, He says: "For I know the plans I have for you, declares the Lord, plans to prosper you and not to harm you, plans to give you hope and a future."


What the Bible says about focusing on today?

Matthew 6:34 is “Therefore do not worry about tomorrow, for tomorrow will worry about itself. ... Each day has enough trouble of its own.” It is the thirty-fourth, and final, verse of the sixth chapter of the Gospel of Matthew in the New Testament and is part of the Sermon on the Mount.


What does God say about the present moment?

Jesus is indicating that the time is now. And though what is taking place in his coming has been promised in the past, the present is what matters. And, although the future is promised by God, the present is what matters. The past is remembered, and the future is hoped for, both important concepts for faith.


Does the Bible say not to dwell on the past?

God commands His people in the Scriptures, “Forget the former things; do not dwell on the past.” (Isaiah 43:18 NIV) Why is the Lord against us dwelling on the past? Because doing so can cause us to get stuck where we are. When our focus is on the past, it's too easy for us to feel sorry for ourselves.




 

WHAT IS PRIDE?

 


Pride is a feeling of deep pleasure or satisfaction derived from one's achievements, the achievements of those with whom one is closely associated, or from qualities or possessions that are widely admired.


We can handle anger biblically by recognizing and admitting our prideful anger and/or our wrong handling of anger as a sin (Proverbs 28:13; 1 John 1:9). This confession should be both to God and to those who have been hurt by our anger. We should not minimize sin by excusing it or blame-shifting.


 

SCRIPTURE SPOTLIGHT


Yeshua (Jesus) at the Temple


Yeshua (Jesus) entered the temple courts and drove out all who were buying and selling there. He overturned the tables of the money-changers and the benches of those selling doves. 13 “It is written,” he said to them, “‘My house will be called a house of prayer, but you are making it a den of robbers.

- Matthew 21:12-13


 

TAKE NOTE

Jesus' name in Hebrew was “Yahshua” which translates to English as Joshua. Yeshua Hamashiach means 'Jesus the Messiah. ... Names cannot be translated but they have been translated through a pagan language.


The Latin transliteration took the Greek IESOUS and changed it to IESUS, where we get the English version of “Jesus”…God will still hear our prayers no matter if we call him “Yeshua,” “Jesus,” or any other transliteration of his name. Is this true or fabricated?


Yahshua is a proposed transliteration of the original Hebrew name of Jesus of Nazareth, considered by Christians and Messianic Jews to be the Messiah. The name means Yahweh (Yah) is salvation (Shua). ... Scholarship generally considers the original form of Jesus to be Yeshua, a Hebrew Bible form of Joshua. Remember names can not be translated.


 

FINAL THOUGHT


Anger or irritation is a primary emotion because it occurred as a direct consequence of the event. The enemy likes to play with our emotions and feelings. Sometimes we make what we feel precedent to what the Most High God requires of us. Anger is feeling emotions that require attention. We can change our feelings toward another by changing how we choose to act toward that person. We can handle anger biblically by communicating to solve the problem. The truth will set you free by admitting and repenting. When you learn better you do better. We are all held accountable for the knowledge we embrace and reject.


- Dr. Mar' Jae




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